Is Anybody There?

And why not!  The thing that keeps many a mum sane throughout the day, myself included, is a sense of self.  New mums can testify that for the first few months or so of your new arrival, um, arriving, life is all about the bubba.  And so it should be. Whether you’re straight back to the workplace, or lucky enough to stay home, there are so many challenges and responsibilities that it’s no wonder that our kids become the main focus. The trick, once routines are sorted and you’re feeling confident, is to remember who you are.

 

In the first year of my daughter’s life I was not qualified to discuss anything but her (much to most people’s dismay hehehe).  She was my world, and as such I talked about what was going on in my life – my child.  If you’d asked me what I liked to do for fun I would have stared at you blankly.  I would have really had to think about it.  And I have been thinking about it for a few years now.  What do I like?  What do I want to do as ‘myself’ and for myself?

 

Actually, there are two tricks to this ‘being yourself’ thing.  The second one is – don’t feel guilty for doing things for yourself!  Mummy guilt is a powerful thing and should be avoided.  Being happy is important, so do things that make you feel that way.  A happy mum usually means a happy house and happy kids.  It can also mean a messy kitchen.  So what!  We’re happy!

 

After much soul searching and reflection, I have dragged my sense of self back into existence.  Look, here I am!  I’m writing, which is my thing.  I actually have a few ‘things,’ but this is my main one.  We all have that ‘thing’ we want to do, and we all have, or at least had, a pretty clear idea of who we were before we had kids.  Maybe it changed with time, but it’s definitely there.  It just needs to be unpacked and put back on display.

 

 

 

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