My suggestion is to just breathe…relax and read these tips to get your mid off the murderous thoughts and back to ‘happy-land’:
Timeout: Allowing time for your temper to diffuse is the best solution to keep you from setting out on a killing spree in broad daylight! As the experts say, count to 10 and let it go! Practise relaxation techniques like meditation and yoga. In the long run, they really help!
My Space: Get some space between you and the other person so you have room to vent out your frustrations. If you are still can’t contain your anger, count longer, go to 20 .
Express Anger: Yes, you’ve read it correctly. No, it does not mean we are green-lighting your attempts to harm the other person in any way. It just means that you should try and sort out the issue by conversing with the other party in a calm manner. Explain to them what triggered your response and how to avoid such sisuations in the future.
Think Healthy: Turn the negative into a positive. Step outside for a brisk walk, run, swim, play ball or grab a quick cold drink. Exercising might provide an outlet for the emotional upset. It might assist you in clearing your head.
Identify the Problem:Try keeping on your focus on the reason of the conflict in opinion. Otherwise it will just lead to more bickering and name-calling. Discuss. Discuss. Discuss
‘I’ Statements: Don’t play the blame-game. It doesn’t really help resolve anything. Use ‘I’ statements like, “I am upset because you promised to help me with this presentation” instead of “You should have helped me with this presentation.”
Let Go: It is considered bad form to hold a grudge when all has been said and done. Forgiveness helps you more than it helps the other person. Its tells you that you are mature enough to handle your emotions and are in complete control of your temper.
Humor Helps: Beware! There is a fine line between humor and sarcasm. While humor can diffuse a potentially explosive situation, sarcasm can set it off like a time-bomb. So use choose your words wisely.
